- 9:33 AM, Saturday,
March 18th, 2017:
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- Already behind on
Delorean stories with two events yesterday but
I have to step back for a moment and document
real life.
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- 1000 entries ago
Jess and Jeff came out to LA to see me marry
Donna in what we thought was our new lives. I had one
more step to go of course, but it shows just how long
Jess and I have worked on our post-marriage
relationship. In fact it was entry 333 that the first
signs of us letting go was apparent. Back when
I sang:
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- before
you go,
- I need to
show,
- that in
10 years you'll know,
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- but now
it hurts,
- the pain
is worse,
- i promise
you'll let go,
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- and then
you'll understand,
- you'll
hold your man,
- your
baby's eyes will heal...
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- ...in a song that
is almost too painful to post. So yes, the
overwhelming majority of the journey and 13 years now
Jess and I have worked on this experiment of
friendship and we would always mention that someday
kids our kids would play with each other and it would
all make sense. It made sense before this moment of
course, but sometimes the moment is so beat you over
the head obvious it demands a pause. Yesterday Jess
posted this:
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- "Adam and I talked
about this moment 12 years ago during one of the
hardest decisions in our lives. So awesome to see it
come to fruition. And so excited to have the Kontras
family staying with us. :)
#alliswellandasitshouldbe"
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- WOW. It's how we
imagined it, but it's still WOW. The funny thing is,
this is immediately after we got to their house from
the airport. We hadn't even been inside the house yet.
Cam jumped out of the car (giving no fucks about how
cold it waas), Zoe grabbed some shoes and lead him to
the backyard and Vienna ran after them.
ANNNNNNNNNND that was it. Instant friends, been
having a blast ever since.
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- The intense
emotions of the whole thing have obviously lessened as
SOOOOOOOO many years have passed. What was once the
absolute heart of the journey is now simply
heartwarming, but we're reminded of it often when
people say: "You guys are staying where? The whole
family? Is Talya OK with this? Are you sure?". It's
something both Talya and Jeff giggle about. This isn't
new to them and they'll both tell you they were fully
briefed on their new romantic interest's friendship
with the "ex" very, very early on. They were
introduced to those exes as soon as possible and it's
always just been.
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- Of course to agree
to spend 10 days in the same house with not only the
exes but with their children is a whole 'nother level,
but in the past ten years we have actually realized
that we all get along and do indeed like each other.
Zoe is 6 and still doesn't know exactly who I am
and of course Vienna and Cameron don't know... but
eventually they will. I want them to see everyone
hanging out and it being normal for a bit and then it
will just be a funny anecdote. I presume we still
have a couple years for all that.
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- Also the house is
roomy and made for kids which is a massive concern
when traveling with a 3 and 4 year old. It makes it
immediately comfortable. So while this set-up seems
odd to everyone else, it is pretty normal for us.
Wonderfully normal.
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- Alright - 2 more
gigs tonight and another tomorrow! Life is zooming.
I presume I'll get all that together in a couple
days.
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- Whew.
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- Adam
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