- 12:01 AM,
Wednesday, September 28th, 2016:
- Well, we're
definitely getting to the moment in parenthood where
things are starting to fly. Whereas I used to say
The Journey makes each year feel like a full YEAR,
Vienna turning 3 and today does not feel like a year.
Not even a little. It's probably becuase the changes
aren't as drastic as those first 2 years... from now
until puberty she's just going to get a bit bigger and
a lot smarter, etc. Which means UNTIL puberty,
I'm gonna have a blast with her and the years are
going to FLYYYYYYYYYY by. It's a coin-flip how the
teen years will go, but I'm holding out hope that my
personality type is very well suited for extreme
hormonal changes and keeping the peace.
- FOR NOW HOWEVER....
It's Ernie time...
- Awwwww. Goddamn I
love that kid. I said it in the Father's Day
entry with the slip -n- slide but there's a shift that
happens that is pretty spectacular with your kids
where they don't just need you... they like you.
Obviously they don't always like you and it's a
constant in your head that it is not your job to be
liked... but there are moments when they genuinely
just love being with you. I adore making them laugh,
I adore making them sing... and there is quite a
difference between girls and boys. My connection with
Vienna will always be extremely special as I do indeed
feel far more responsiblity to be a role model for her
than I do with Cameron. Hell, half the time with
Cameron I'm concerned I'm putting pressure on him
every second by the amount of things I do and do well.
With Vienna however, it's full steam ahead - be the
best male human I can be and make certain she feels
validated and equal. I don't know what her country is
going to look like when she's an adult. In fact,
I don't have a lot of faith after that first
debate and people's reaction to it... but I know
I can make a bubble around her for a little bit
with love and I'm certainly saving money for if we do
actually have to move. Talya and I have indeed
been around the world and those options aren't as
drastic as it might be to others...
- ...we are however
in a bit of a vacuum in California so it could be some
time before extreme changes actually affect US. Time
will tell, but it's on the table. I'll absolutely move
to give them a better life. It's stunning that the
electorate has been so dumbed down that that's even on
the table, but it is what it is. I need to react
- Back on track:
Vienna is an absolute pleasure to be around lately.
There was a massive shift where suddenly she became
considerate. Like, considerate FIRST. Thinks of
how things affect her brother, etc. It's very sweet.
It dis-a-fucking-ppears when she's tired or hungry...
but it's there. It ain't really there yet with Cam...
but I can sit and make full on jokes with Vienna
and actually expand her reality a bit. It's a magical
time being inside her brain at this age. Seeing her
problems, helping her solve them, watching her figure
things out on her own and generally just laughing.
A bunch. 3-4 is just hilarious. I know that
there will be a minor shift before puberty that will
make me miss this time frame a BUNCH so I'm holding on
as much as possible. Taking as much video as
I can... generally soaking in all the time.
And her art... man, I've mentioned this on Facebook,
but about a year ago we noticed something in how she
drew that was different. I will always be the
father that doesn't rave about his children unless
it's extraordinary because I hate that shit.
I think giving kids a sense of BEING AMAZING
when they're not is tantamount to abuse. A few months
ago however she colored this...
- That's not normal
for a 3 year old. That's 5-6 year range. It's not just
that she's in the lines, she's using a rainbow color
effect that just stand out from anything in that age
range (that I've seen, and we see a LOT of art in
pre-school). Even more abstract was