- 3:12 PM, Sunday,
November 9th, 2014:
- The Ghost Bike
Foundation put a bike at the site. I like that they do
that, it really does hit you in the gut when you see
it and make you more aware of the fact that someone
died on a bicycle there.
- I ended up
commenting on the Daily News article about the cyclist
because some jackass was angry they didn't assess
blame in the headline. With my media background (and
common fucking sense) I explained that news
outlets cannot do that when the police haven't
finished the investigation no matter how obvious it
may seem to you at home reading it. And with me being
on the scene, I even had some doubts considering
where the car was hit, just exactly how it happened.
Safe to say now, with all the info I had - it
does indeed seem like the driver will be charged. But
nonetheless, the headline was correct.
- Through that, the
cyclist's sister found me, thanked me for being with
him as he passed and connected with me on Facebook. I
let her know that if she or anyone in his family
wanted to talk to me about the details I was happy to
do so. Yesterday I fielded a few phone calls and
relived it again, yet this time I was actually helping
them. They had so little information and it really did
help that I was able to be so specific. Mainly
what I already said in the previous entry. I
spoke with one of his daughters and his sister and
then yesterday evening they went to the crash site and
I met them to explain some more.
- The family and
friends that were there were so appreciative of the
tiniest details. From events in my life I know
that's what seems to be missing most when in need of
closure. The ability to piece together the ending.
Once you accept that it has ended, your mind
immediately tries to make sense of it - and in this
case? They had nothing. The police told them very
little, in fact they weren't even contacted until the
next day, and his sister until Thursday! It killed me
to hear that because I had to restrain myself
from grabbing his cell phone and calling the last
number. I stopped only because I was certain
the paramedics would do that and they didn't!??! I
thought they always did that? Maybe because he
already passed there wasn't a reason to. Actually, now
that I think of it that makes sense. If it's a
life-saving emergency, it's crucial. If the victim
already passed, the family will be contacted through
the medical records once they get them to the
hospital. But ugh, I'm sure they would've appreciated
knowing a bit sooner so they could be part of the
- Either way,
everyone was extremely kind, understanding and
honestly? Quite prepared for this. Apparently this guy
had one of those "9 lives" type of existences.
Fell out of a 2 story window when he was 18 months
open and cracked his head open - been in countelss
accidents with head injuries and walked away fine.
Even had a metal plate in his head. Incredible stories
and they even joked with him not to take better care
of his guardian angel because that fucker was working
overtime. They also let me know that a couple weeks
before he had been in some sort of altercation and had
a head wound, which clearly was the cause of him
bleeding out so quickly. That piece of
information certainly helped the question I had
in my mind: how on earth did he have no indication of
a bad fall (scrapes, cuts, nothing) yet was bleeding
SO PROFUSELY? Clearly he opened an old wound that
wasn't fully healed and that was it. Gone almost
immediately. So sad.
- They asked if they
could stay in touch and I said of course. It was
nice to now have an outlet for all this information
inside of me that seemed to not have a place. In fact,
it did. It truly helped these people come to terms
with what happened. I tried my best to remember the
details and thankfully, because I would've been
honest either way, it really was one of the most
peaceful passings I've witnessed. They sepcifically
asked for convulsions or struggling to breathe and
there was none of that. That put them at ease and as
well, being at the site and being able to show them
exactly where things happened helped them as well.
I now feel fortunate for having been able to help
comfort not only that man, but his family afterwards.
I am fortunate to have the ability to compartmentalize
emergency situations and this really hit that home.
His sister in particular was also very touched by the
remainder of my day with Cameron and was quite happy
there weren't two tragedies that day. Goddamn, what an
event. November the fourth. That won't fade anytime
- I hope we stay in
touch. I'm always a "lemonade" guy in these
situations and a nice friendship coming from such an
event would be great. Though realistically? I will be
too much of a reminder of such a traumatic event.
That's ok. I'm happy I could help comfort them
and pray they find some peace with everything. I think
the fact that he had cheated death so many times in
his life will actually provide some comfort. He went
through a lot and finally ran into a situation that he
couldn't walk away from. There's a romance to that
life. I hope they find that.