If Jess and I now
feel like brother and sister, Burg and I are probably
distant cousins. Mind you, having nothing to do with
how we get along, it's just the simple fact that we
started going out in 1993. Twenty years ago. We were
together for 4 years and have now been apart for 16.
The memory of that time is now actually a childhood
memory to us. The entirety of our relationship has
been as friends who have an interesting bond because
we were once married. It's why I always stress to
anyone who will listen to focus on the new label,
forgive the old one ('cause it was obviously
incorrect), and find your peace. Because of that? You
get these absolutely wonderful moments when your dear
friend meets your baby.
A big thank you to
everyone this week who will be uncomfortably
videotaped because they happen to be friends with the
first videoblogger who couldn't keep the camera off
these moments if he tried. These are my defining
moments for me and are visions I've had in my head for
years. It's what you imagine and hope for when your
labels change and honestly? Part of you believes
you're fooling yourself. Who really maintains a
friendship with their exes? Is someone you had a
relationship with 16 years ago really going to want to
hang out with you and see your baby?
fortunately and as a testament to just how much we
cared about each other regardless of labels... yes.
They will want to meet your kid and then take you and
your wife out for a pizza and beer while the
grandmothers watch said kid. Forever. Every stage.
Lifetime friends with a funny bond that your kids will
never understand. That kid with a WHOLE bunch of
"Aunts". LOL. I guess that's why you have The Journey,
at some point in their lives they'll find it and
figure out how the world can work if you lead with
your heart. It isn't a painless journey, but it sure
Of course up next
is Jess which ups the emotion considerably since our
kids are actually going to meet each other.
What will be commonplace for the next 20 years
absolutely blows my mind thinking about it now. I'm a
very lucky man.