Spinning from the
insanity of "Palmolive" today was the day
I was finally gonna get some answers from my
agent and an ex-client of "Palmolive". As my
manager/girlfriend she had me sign with the agency she
worked with and while I was with her she dropped
a client and said: "the agency will drop her
too, they always do when I drop them." I sat kind
of stunned. Clearly I was in a shitty situation
as mixing business with pleasure is always an extreme
risk... but as bad a year as 2010 was for me?
I was happy just to have something else to focus
on besides depression.
As readers know,
within days of meeting "Palmolive" things were
dramatic to a Donna degree and in the infamous
final IM she lost her shit because I gave her cat
worms. Yes, the feral cat she got from the humane
society days before got worms and her first conclusion
is that a flea from CeBe rode MY ass to her
house, the cat ate it (a legitimate way for a cat to
get worms) thus, I gave her cat worms. It's fun
just to type that sentence. Goddamn that's funny. She
blocked me, defriended, de-Managered, etc. So in the
aftermath, a week or two later I decided to meet
with the agent and try to figure out what was going
on. That same day, I had also contacted the girl
"Palmolive" dropped when we were together to meet
at Starbucks and compare notes. I was stunned that a
woman this unprofessional could do as well as she had
in the industry and was anxious to compare stories
with this girl. We decided to meet at the Starbucks
closest to my agent when her improv class was over at
2 pm. To which I replied:
"Yeah I live in
North Hollywood... our agent is actually on Ventura
Blvd. near woodman... 13535 Ventura Blvd is the
closest starbucks between fulton and woodman... I'll
be there at 2-2:15"
So at 2:15 pm,
Tuesday, October 19th, 2010 - I walked into Starbucks
and sat down at one of the two comfy leather chairs.
That would be my path to a Starbucks I had never
been to before that moment.
Talya was across
the street at Panne Dolce (where we saw Jon Hamm
earlier this year) having coffee with a friend. When
he left she was trying to waste time before she went
to tutor and looked across at the Starbucks and
decided to get up from the coffee shop she was at and
come to Starbucks 'cause she liked the Chai Tea there.
Something "Best in Show" about the coffee shop
across from the coffee shop aspect of this. Ha. She
had an hour to kill, sits down at one of the comfy
leather chairs and proceeds to see me walk in and take
the other one.
So the stage is
set. And Talya spills her tea.
I noticed her
before that, particularly her fall clothing (goddamn
I love this season), but was noticeably antsy and
concentrating on all that was about to be talked about
with the ex-client. When Talya spilled her tea, I
noticed a ring on her ring finger that just made me
wince. Not because she might have been married, but
because it was just... the saddest excuse for a
wedding ring if that's what it was. It was a long
cylinder type silver jobbie that just looked really
cheap and I remember just feelin' bad for her if she
accepted that. LOL. So I said: "Is that a
wedding ring?" in a tone that dripped with exhaustion.
As if to say, "For your sake, I hope it's not."
She replied that it wasn't and I said, "Good, that
would've been a really pathetic wedding
Small talk ensued
and I mentioned who I was meeting, she mentioned
she was just wasting some time before her next
appointment. She also mentioned she had just come from
an audition that would have her being flown to South
Africa if she got it. I bet you can see where this is
I married a woman from South Africa... but it was
more for the greencard."
"I married someone
for a greencard too."
on my face and I instantly asked for her number.
Not even as a romantic play... as
a "HOLY SHIT, I've never known anyone who
has been in that same situation! I would LOVE to
talk to you about it." Kinda like the situation with
the ex-client. You just want to share so much pent up
shit that you dealt with with someone that
understands. She gave me her SAG card and we
continued talking. What a random thing to have in
common, right? I was immediately interested and right
then... the girl I was meeting walked in. We went
and sat outside. When Talya left she walked past us
outside and then turned back to look at me and did the
hair over the ear thing. I waved goodbye and knew
exactly what that meant. So I met with my agent
right after coffee, then ran home and emailed her
within an hour.
Tue, Oct 19, 2010 at 3:53
chance encounter can feel INTERRUPTED
by the person I was supposed to meet
anyway (which was a fascinating
conversation by the way). Would love to
- Verizon (though I misplaced my
friggin' phone and have been calling
people from gmail)
Re: funny how...
Tue, Oct 19, 2010 at 6:45
we should. It was good to meet
non-commital there. 5 Minutes later
Re: funny how...
Tue, Oct 19, 2010 at 6:50
well now what the hell do I do. She
said we should... and then didn't tell
me a place or genre of meeting...
clearly she believes in proper
protocol? Wants me to decide? I think?
God I'm horrible at
you care to have coffee/tea
that was right>
nothing the rest of the night! Was sure I seemed
over-anxious. Right before
Re: funny how...
Tue, Oct 19, 2010 at 11:32
it took me so long to respond...my
phone has the battery life of a mayfly,
and I just got home from a long day. I
really did enjoy our conversation
today, but I must be honest with
you...I literally just got my heart
totally broken, and I'm not in a place
to date. I'd love to have coffee/tea
with you as long as it's without any
sort of romantic intentions. You're not
horrible at this, you seem like a very
interesting guy, and I would love to
get to know you, but I'm really not
ready for any sort of real dating. If
you still want to have coffee/tea with
me, that'd be great, if not, I
understand and apologize for any sort
of leading on.
Actually I think I'm the one that's
horrible at this :)
Saw her on
G-Chat a few minutes later and this conversation
rounded out the day...
only intention is to keep talking.
Ok, sounds good to me
it was fun, right?
clearly romance is not fun to you at
boy do i understand that...
wait'll you hear all my fun.
Yeah, that's the truth
and you know damn well
that last smile was coy
so it's in there somewhere
but i totally respect how you
(i was referring to your smile as you
walked past us at the
they are the most infuriating thing
Oh. See I must be crazy because I
didn't even realize I did
you're not crazy, just a little more
awake than you feel right
are you typing on your
Yes it's very difficult
well shit let's stop typing
I hate this phone
what's your schedule like?
just switched to my
yeah, i know
um, tomorrow i have an audition, then
work, then kung fu
kung fucking fu?
who does that?
yeah, i do kung fu
i am totally intimidated
alrighty... how's bout
Thursday is good, any time before
oh and btw - i just have to tell you,
when you didn't respond to that last
i was like "really?
just when you think you understand how
your gender works...
i'm all rereading the email, thinking -
what do you mean?
: well you didnt respond...
so i figured i said something
i'm a bit hypersensitive to crazy
so i parse my words
oh, no, sorry
thinking i've upset some fragile issue
that has yet to be revealed
soon after I sent you an email, my
alright - thursday morningish, same
starbucks is fine by me
no that makes sense
i was working, and then i went to the
gym and just got home :)
really, i'm just excited someone may
understand the greencard
there's an isolation there
hard to explain
yeah, i know
and people look at you like an
however, my entire life has been online
and public for 11 years
(world's first and longest running
so it's helped to just kind of laugh at
and realize... it's all just
there is nothing impressive about that
the geekiest title ever
yeah, i find life much easier when
you're just straightforward and
well being presently honest is
being PAST honest?
in fact.. how funny that should come
"to everyone who runs from their past,
you're not that fast"
that was great!
just did that yesterday
or as my mother would say "dear, you
forgot your shirt"
seriously - my failures are about the
greatest things to ever
the only way to learn
well the only way to show you've
man the ***-*** thing is spooky isn't
first 6 digits of our phone numbers are
i'm so proud of that being my number
seems so cool to say it
a cool rhythm/pattern to our shared
and **** for you? totally
i got lucky
that so beats my ****
when you dial it, it's diagonal
well, except for the ***
i mean, you're kind of a geek for
but i dig that
yeah, well i'm a geek
i've already come to terms with
i play one on TV every once and
i never had a chance at being
my "real" facebook page
is one of my egos
i did a bit on cbs called adam and the
and my "brother" is a geek named
(who is really me) and the Adam is this
arrogant metro douche
who wears douchebag hats like i wore
alright i won't bug you anymore... is
10:30 cool for thursday?
can we do a bit later?
I'll have my morning things to
is 1 ok?
sweet, ok, see you then!
hello 8th grade
how are you?
k - see you then.
i work with kids
their lingo rubs off on me
i must be getting to bed
see you thursday :)
nice to meet you
nice to meet you too
And there you have
it. Rereading everything I sure seemed
overly-anxious, but it honestly wasn't because I
wanted a romantic relationship... it had EVERYTHING to
do with wanting to compare notes about the stress of
helping someone get a greencard. In both of our cases
we really did love the person, wanted it to work out,
but when it didn't? Felt completely used. All your
friends and family think you're nuts... and you just
feel isolated. It was so fortunate for me to have met
someone who had gone through the same
lasted 3 hours and continued next door at Subway.
Where, remarkably, when asked what her two favorite
movies were... she responded with my two
favorite movies (Eternal Sunshine & Lost in
Translation) which has never, ever, ever happened to
me. So spooky. We were also both born premature around
6 weeks... there was most definately a bond on a
several levels early on. However, true to our word we
did not commit to anything with each other.
I mean, we "dated" as they say, but we were both
uber-commited to being non-commital. A couple weeks
later she went to Peru, then a few days after she got
back I went to Columbus for 3 weeks. And although
I enjoyed the time we spent together? She was so
quiet at times I honestly started losing interest.
Told several friends at the time there was nothing
there. Then when I got back from Columbus on
December 10th, she picked me up, spent the night, and
the following morning when I asked her why she is
so quiet she replied:
I've ever known has ever really cared what I had
Well I did.
And from that point on, we were together everyday. She
never left my house and two weeks later we looked at
each other, smiled and said: "We're in a relationship
aren't we?". December 28th we made it official and
what a year it has been since. It's been as effortless
a relationship as I've ever known. We just kinda work.
We just kinda fit. It allows us to fight the battles
outside our home... and there are always tons
of those. Inside? It's a bubble. A kind of
sanctuary where we refuel for the next fight. We both
feel so fortunate to have found that peace and are
always eager to share it with others. It has angered a
few of her friends who are decidedly not
peaceful (funny thing about showing your light, it can
act like a mirror to those who are unhappy), but we
are who we are. Incredibly fortunate, incredibly
giving people that can't wait to spend our lives
So tonight (yes,
this entry took me all day to write) we went back to
the scene of the crime which sadly was totally
rennovated last month so we couldn't sit in the seats
we met in, but that's kind of our life. The world
changing and swirling around us while we float
downstream. It's kinda cool to have a coffee
anniversary and a dinner anniversary in the future.
We're fortunate to have a cool story like
wouldn't you know? Starbucks was selling
their "Anniversary Coffee" for 2011. I looked
over at it and shook my head. I guess
they were selling that the day we met, but it
never would've registered to us then. I guess
it's their anniversary too, but let's just
act like they started it for us.
that'll kinda be a cool tradition to buy a
bag and save the labels each year. As
"corporate" as it feels to surround so much
of our history with Starbucks, the truth is?
Fuckin really good coffee. You know?
Hopefully there isn't some horrendous
corporate scandal with them someday that
taints all our memories. They seem to be one
of the better run companies. <shrugs>
They just shouldn't be considered "people".
Alright, time to
upload this monstrosity of an entry and the video.